The Patchwork Grandmothers are my wise, ancestral teachers who live in the spirit realm. They come with the message, be yourself.
I don’t know why that’s so hard, because we all think we are being ourselves. If we are honest, we’d probably find that we have layers of rules, conditions, and acceptable ways to behave in our lives. It's how we interact and behave from minute-to-minute, day-to-day, which tends to be inauthentic to what we really want or need at that moment.
The Patchwork Grandmothers have been helping me uncover some of these rules and inauthentic ways of being—I have found there are many of them. For example, there are ways to behave in public, in a relationship, on T.V. in front of a camera. Perhaps these ways to behave aren’t necessarily true to me or to you, but I’m uncovering them because the Patchwork Grandmothers are reminding us always that who we are at the core, with no masks in front of us, is brilliant. Is divine. Is sacred. Is holy. Is all those beautiful things that we don’t seem to think about ourselves, but the core of who we are, is sacred. We are all connected to a divine, sacred lineage and we forget that.
By being ourselves; truly ourselves, sometimes that means hurting someone else’s feelings. Sometimes that means saying no when you want to say yes or saying yes instead of no. There are all of these authentic ways, polite ways of being, that we have adopted that don’t necessarily honour our bigger self. Our feelings always let us know and that is part of our sacred lineage - our sacred bodies: the physical body, the emotional body, the mental body and the spiritual body.
The spiritual body always knows who we are. We are a bigger version of ourselves, connected to each other and connected to all things.
The mental body, in its capacity to think anything, in any direction of time and space, can think that it’s being free when it’s actually being programmed into a little box to say, be polite. That’s a thought—be polite. Don’t hurt their feelings—that’s a thought.
Your emotional body tends to know what’s going on right now at this moment. If you say yes when you want to say no, your body knows that was inauthentic. That felt wrong, and you know it. Everyone has experienced this, and that little signal that you got from your body, from your feelings, is great wisdom, but is used to being ignored. That little signal has been so ignored in our society because polite seems to be better than being authentic.
The Patchwork Grandmothers say it isn’t better than being authentic. They are saying, that being authentic you will create ripples of healing to others. Your authentic self will allow others to know, “Oh, they always value themselves. I can trust them. They always listen to that voice of knowledge. I can trust that when they say yes, they mean it. And when they say no, they mean it.”
Honour that deep wise part of you. I know that there are certain things in society that people would argue and say, “Well, you know, you have to.” But, I truly trust, and the Patchwork Grandmothers have given me this wisdom, we can trust ourselves. We can trust that if we were to honour all those signals of when to honour ourselves, if we were to listen long enough to act on something that our feeling’s centre said, “Act on that,” or, “Don’t act on that.” If we did that, we would probably be much more loving individuals. We would be trustworthy. We would trust ourselves.
So, have a listen. Honour that deep part of you. You are sacred. Be yourself and let others see your true authentic self. You’ll be surprised. By that permission you give yourself, you’ll give others to do the same.